Wednesday, January 2, 2013

Thoughts About Me

Before I get into the gist of this post, I first have to say one thing: Not running SUCKS!  I had planned on ringing in the new year, but NO.  I can't.  I have to rest my foot.  It's annoying and it's leaving me with way too much pent up frustration.  OK, I said it.  Now on to the real post.

Lately, I've been thinking a lot about me.  I've been thinking about my life experiences and who I was and who I am and who I am going to be.  One thing that I've really thought about is how my life experiences compare to those of others.

I've always been a bit of  nerd.  I've always had my head in the books, and I've always been a little awkward and shy when it comes to meeting new people and making new friends.  On top of that, things that often bond others don't interest me at all.  I've zero interest in partying or tailgating, and I'd much prefer staying at home and reading to going out and shopping.  Don't understand?  Let me spell things out for you:

-I've never been drunk.  While I'm not opposed to drinking, I really just don't understand the point in drinking that much.  I also don't really enjoy the taste of most alcohol, so it's very rare that I crave a drink.  Occasionally I'll have something, and on one occasion I woke up with a bit of a cotton mouth, but nothing serious.

-I've never smoked pot.  While most people I know have enjoyed a joint or two in their youth (including my parents) I've never been in the situation where it's offered to me, and I've never actively searched for it.

-I don't have nor do I plan on having any tattoos.  Ummm, yuck!

-I've only pierced my ears...once.  I don't have any other piercings, nor do I plan to get any others.

-While I've dated a few guys, I've only ever had 2 serious boyfriends, and I married the second one.  The first one was while I was still in high school, and even at the time I knew it would never go anywhere.

Now then, after reading all this, some of you may think I'm a prude, and I guess I kind of am.  I don't mind people who partake in these things, though, and I'm certainly not against any of them (except the tattoo...ick).  I just don't see the point in most of them.  That said, it kind of makes me worry that I don't have these experiences. 

How can I relate to others without having these experiences?  How can I bond when I don't socialize in the same way?  When I have kids, how will I guide them when I don't truly know the world they face?

I don't really have an answer to any of these, so I'm asking for some feed back.  Don't get me wrong.  I like who I am, and in general I have no issue with any of these things.  I just wonder how this will affect my life.  Any thoughts?  Thanks!  


  1. You and I have a lot in common:) I also have never been drunk, no piercings or tattoos, never did any drugs (nor the desire to experiment), and while I went on dates, the first serious relationship I had was with my now husband. I absolutely do not think it's necessary to do any of those things in order to know how to bond with people or to be a good parent. There are SO many different groups of people in this world...we're bound to bump into those who are like-minded...and even if not, I don't think people necessarily have to have the exact same interests in order to be friends or enjoy each other's company. I don't have a lot of friends--really more like a handful--but the ones I do have only have maybe a few things in common with me and generally, we just enjoy the differences in our personalities. At least for me, though, one major "must" in order to get along with someone else is that we share the same sense of humor.

    I just watched this movie on Netflix--"Rid of Me" that kind of reminded me of myself, although I feel like I've gotten a LOT better about my social skills; still sometimes, I feel like the main character. I guess this is why I've gotten addicted to blogs: I've discovered so many different people, but there is something to appreciate in each one.